Management Skills: 5 Things You Should Never Say to Your Employees

There’s plenty advice out there about how to talk to your employees – about what you should say (I’ve written plenty myself!). In this article I’m going to cover an area not quite so popular – but equally important – what not to say. Here are five things I’ve heard said to employees and that I would suggest you avoid saying to your employees for the reasons I explain

1. ‘I’m sure you’ll work out what to do – in time’

You won’t believe (or maybe you will) how many people have told me that they’ve started new jobs only to find that there’s absolutely nobody who can clarify for them exactly what good performance looks like in that job. Someone recently told me that their new manager told them ‘you’ll work out what to do – in time’. Gosh. As ‘knowing what’s expected of them’ consistently ranks highly on employee satisfaction surveys don’t you think it’s a good idea to help our employees get that clarity – sooner rather than later? Employees want and need to know what your expectations are and what objectives and goals are important to the success of the job. Don’t they?

2. ‘I hope you don’t mind but…’

I’m all for being collaborative at work but there’s a big difference between being collaborative and being apologetic. Some managers I work with seem to feel the need to gain permission to undertake the most important part of their role – managing their staff’s performance. They know there are real benefits to managing employee performance but they don’t feel they have somehow earned the ‘right’ to do this. So they say something like ‘I hope you don’t mind but I need to talk to you about your objectives’ or ‘I’m sorry about this but I need to give you some feedback on your work’. The truth is you have ‘rights’ as a manager. You don’t have to apologize for managing your employee’s performance and you certainly don’t have to ask for anyones permission.

3. ‘Nice job Doug, keep it up!’

It’s so easy to fall into this trap. You spend literally hours preparing to give criticism, but only a matter of minutes (if at all) preparing to give praise. The result? A passing comment on the lines of ‘nice job Doug, keep it up’ Say what? Which job? The whole job? Keep what up? Not only is this type of praise confusing but, by and large, it’s not wildly motivating. As with any feedback (positive or negative) for the feedback to be meaningful it’s got to be factual. All you need to do is to say specifically what your employee has done (using facts) and specifically what the results of their actions have been. Simple really?

4. ‘Feedback, from you to me – now’

Some years ago I was working with a team of managers when, out of the blue, the senior manager pushed back his chair, stood up, looked directly at his team and said ‘feedback, from you to me – now’. Can you guess what happened next? Yep, you’re right – nothing. The whole team looked flabbergasted (as you would), then embarrassed, then continued talking about something else. Later, the senior manager said to me ‘there’s no point asking for feedback from your staff – they never give it to you’. OK, while I’m sure you’d never go that far, many managers do make the mistake of asking something like ‘what do you think about me as your manager?’. Not surprisingly, they don’t tend to get a great response either. When you want to get some feedback on your management style (because your management style has a huge impact on your staff’s job satisfaction) try something like ‘Is there anything I could do; more of, less of, or differently that would improve your job satisfaction?’

5. ‘You all need to sort this out’

Here’s a scenario someone recently described to me: The manager of a team of 10 called together everyone who worked for her and told them that they needed to ‘get to grips with the new XY system and make it work’ (or words to that effect). Of the ten team members, only two of them weren’t using the new XY system effectively – everyone else had well and truly ‘got to grips’ with it and were using it to great effect

Result? Eight very disgruntled employees

I call this the ‘scattergun approach’ to giving performance feedback. Basically this means you deliver a piece of feedback to the whole team hoping that the feedback ‘hits’ the people who need to hear it. This feedback might be negative (as in this example) or positive (as in ‘good work team – keep it up’). This type of feedback just doesn’t work. Again, you need to give feedback that is factual – based on clear, objective ‘evidence’ – and to individuals who need to hear it (and only the individuals who need to hear it!)


I know the examples I’ve given are a little extreme (though true!) but it is easy to say things to our employees that are simply not useful. The easiest way to ensure this doesn’t happen to you is to make sure you have sound ‘effective management practices’ in place. For example, you won’t make mistake no. 1 if you follow a system which begins with agreeing performance standards and objectives. And you won’t make mistake 3 if you follow the same system which includes giving factual performance feedback. In short, good management practice means you don’t say things to your employees that are, frankly, dumb!

Acai Weight Loss With Bible Fruits and Vegetables!

Acai and the Bible? No way! Don’t get all religious on me! We have heard all that Bible stuff before. Wait! Hold it! This is not a preaching session. This is an experience lesson useful for all humans today. Besides what exactly is wrong with examining the Bible anyway? OK. Ok. Here is the situation. Remember when centuries ago in Bible history the Israelites were plundered and taken captive by the world power of that era?

(Side note background: Their God Jehovah allowed them to be taken into captivity due to their selfishness, immorality, unfaithfulness and wayward course into false religions flourishing in the surrounding pagan lands in the area. This was their punishment for deviating from exclusive devotion to their God to whom they promised to worship only, and follow and obey his laws at that time.)

The Bible account we are referring to deals with Daniel and his three faithful companions while in captivity. Daniel and his companions were found to be highly intelligent and worthy of training and education into the foreign culture.

They were therefore invoked into the royal family and were treated as royal even eating along with the royal household of the Babylonian King Nebuchadnezzar.

The provisions of the Babylonian king, however, presented a challenge to the four Hebrew youths. Dietary restrictions undoubtedly were not of high concern to the royal household of the Babylonian king. So they requested a diet of vegetables and water, and it was granted to them. (Daniel 1:9-14)

In the end of the ten day trial of vegetables and water Daniel and his three companions looked healthier and better than all the other persons who were eating the Kings delicacies at his Royal table.

Well what does that tell us today? Fruits and vegetables are better for our health.

There are many reasons for the epidemic overweight condition throughout our world today. Here are the most evident causes.

1. Just think only a few short years ago beef cattle, farm pigs, chickens and livestock in general were fed off the land. Today we have become accustomed to livestock pumped up with hormones, antibiotics, and fed a variety of food additives. This has harmed our overall health.

2. In addition we have the fast food availability all over the world. Juicy hamburgers, French fries, chicken wings etc. etc ready to go. Eat in; drive in, food on the go. Are fast foods good for you? NO! Are fast foods delicious? YES! Are fast foods good for you? NO!

3. Just think of all the processed foods (junk foods) available at your local food store. All of these modern food conveniences are packing on the pounds today.

Those above realities do not alarm us anymore. We push the dangers to the back of our mind. However the results are showing up in more and more overweight, obese, and morbidly obese individuals on the rise. Look at our young school goers. At young and tender years children are moving into the ranks of obese.

The Bible shows the benefits of vegetables as primary food with meats as secondary. Follow this system and you will not need to fight off excess weight. (Excess fat) Remember you are not overweight – you are over fat. The Acai berry is a fruit naturally grown in the rain forests. The Acai berry has been extremely helpful in correcting the metabolism function of the human body. Acai has many additional wonderful attributes for healthful living.

Yes our modern world offers many advantages but also many disadvantages. What will you eat today?

To your weight loss success, health and happiness, John Schmidt – Weight Loss Nutritionist

Know Your Gambling Terminology

When you are interested in gambling, you want to do everything you can to make sure that you start out on the best foot possible. One important thing for you to do is to make sure that you are familiar with at least some of the most used gambling terms. This will help you to know more about what everyone is talking about and this is very important when you have money on the line. Here are some of the more popular gambling terms and their meanings:Action: This is the total amount of money that is bet by a person during the entire game.All In: This is used in a card game. When a gambler is putting all of their chips in, they will say that they are “All In”.Barred: This is a term that is used in casinos when a person has been kicked out of the casino for good. They are no longer allowed to come in to that casino.Betting Limits: This is the minimum and maximum amount of money that a person can bet in a particular game.Blind Bet: Used in poker, this means that the bets are posted before anyone has even seen their cards.
Buck: This means that the bet is a hundred dollar bet.Burn Cards: To burn cards is to remove them off of the top of the deck and put them in to a discard tray.Casino Rate: This means that the casino will rent you a room at a discounted rate if you are a good and loyal customer of the casino.Color Up: When a person “colors up” they exchange their smaller chips in for larger ones.Cot-tail: This term is used when a person is betting the same thing as another player that is winning is betting.Dime Bet: This is the term that is used for a $1,000.00 bet.Down to the Felt: To be “down to the felt” is to be totally out of all of your money.Drop: This is known as the money that is lost.Edge: This is the advantage that one player has over another player.Eye in the Sky: These are the cameras that are placed throughout the casino to keep an eye on everything that is going on in the casino.Fill: This is the term that is used in poker when a person gets that fifth card which makes their hand.Fill Up: In poker, this means that a person has a full house.Fish: A fish is a person that is the one losing money.Grease: A grease is also known as a bribe.Hit: In blackjack, this means that you are taking another card.Maximum Bet: This is the amount that you are allowed to bet up to.MVG: This is the most valuable guest.Pass: This means not to bet in a card game.Payout: This is the amount of money that you will get as you win.Pot: The amount of money that accumulates during the game.Quads: In poker, this is known as a four of a kind.Rank: This is used in poker to refer to the worth of the cards.Sawbuck: This is what ten dollars if referred to as.Shiner: A small mirror used for cheating.Skin: a dollar is referred to as “skin”.Ticket: A card is also called a ticket.White meat: This is what a profit is called.

Playing Safe with Online Casino Slots

A lot has been written about the honesty of land-based slot machines. An excellent article by Steve Bourie is titled, “Are Slot Machines Honest?” and originally appeared in the 1999 American Casino Guide. (It can be found online by searching for the title in Google or Yahoo!.) Physical, land-based slot machines have a lot of “variations” (being polite) than can deceive the player. Of course, they are all illegal and do not happen. But read the article, closely.On the other hand, online casino slots use an electronic “random number generator” or RNG, operating inside a very large computer program that manages the game graphics, the player accounts of those who join the game, the statistics of every hand played, and much more. The random number generator is hard-coded software instructions that do not change. There is no “sense switch” (see the Bourie article) that can be flipped to give players worse odds. Regarding control parameters, each use of the RNG is the same as the last use, and will be the same as the next use. The numbers will come out randomly, but the pattern of randomness never changes. This is a true advantage of software-based online casino slots.Land-based slot machines can also have payout percentages as low as 83%, which is not true with online casino slots. In online gaming, each machine has the same winning percentage as the other machines. You can see the payout percentages for many online gaming sites, and you will see that it rarely drops below 95% – that is, the house makes a 5% profit, on the average. In fact, most casinos can document that their payout percentages are in the 97% – 98% range. This means that you can spend an hour, gamble your $100 stake about 3 times, and on the average it will cost you $7.50. But players don’t gamble to be average: the true reward is the high-paying win. And the high-paying win is balanced, of course, by a number of players who lose and finance that win.So are online casino slots fair? Yes, they clearly are. The software that operates the games is tested regularly by independent testing laboratories (look for logos at the bottom of the casino website), and no game is individually controllable to be biased. That is a far cry from the situation with land-based slot machines, appropriately called “one-armed bandits”.Players get better odds, they get absolute consistency across all games – but no one can guarantee a win every time. That’s just the nature of gambling, and that’s part of the thrill.So the next time you want to play a slot machine, even if there’s a land-based casino right next door, you are better advised to go to your computer and play the online casino slots. They are a far better bet.

Free Paid Surveys – The Gamble Behind It!

A lot of free online paid surveys websites promise their new participants that they can make a lot of money if they follow their instructions, that is, if they sign up. No one in their right mind will let an opportunity to make money very easily pass up. Unfortunately, these free of charge paid surveys are just marketing strategies which only aim to get your personal information so they can send it as spam to other people. This may be considered harmless by other people, but if you think about it more carefully, they are just wasting your time, and of course, your effort. In spite of that, free paid survey offers can still be found that are real. Many marketing companies are genuinely interested in finding out their consumers’ opinion and feedback on their services and products and they do not think twice about offering incentives for this.Most of the time, these paid surveys that can be found being advertised through pop ups or unsolicited emails are scam. You may try to ignore these to protect yourself, but if you are willing to gamble, then go ahead. If you try to look closely at these ads, you will definitely wonder if they are telling the truth. The offers are not out of the ordinary but they surely are tempting. But, there are some that ask for your contact info then send, or even sell, them to other companies for their own profit.However, do not think that all free paid surveys are purely scam because there are some that are genuine. These companies that give incentives to people are normally those that have been around for several years and have a reputation to protect. They are trustworthy and do give the people what they promise. Their promises are also tempting, but not overly done which is how you can distinguish these offers from the scam ones.Risk is always involved with free paid surveys. But, more often than not, overkill offers are quite difficult to believe. Even so, although it is impossible to survive on just incentives from surveys, the gain is also worth your time and effort.